A while ago, I saw a science fiction movie called "Advantageous". I won't reveal the plot in case you want to watch it, but like a lot of sci-fi movies, it made me start thinking about where our society is going. I always find it interesting to see which aspects of society sci-fi movies choose as the ones that have changed in these fictional futures.
In this particular movie, the thing that struck me the most was how people did anything in order to not show any vulnerability, and the extremely high level of competition in the job market. Obviously these are already very real parts of (especially Western) society today, but in this movie it was taken to the next level, and the desperation it triggered in people was scary. Nobody seemed to have any empathy for one another, and appearance was all that mattered.
Brené Brown, an American scholar and bestselling author, spent over 10 years studying vulnerability and worthiness, and she says that showing vulnerability is the most valuable gift you can give to anyone. However, it can't exist without trust, and not everyone can be trusted. My question is, can you ever fully trust anyone? Isn't it a part of being human, to self-preserve above all?
I'm often told that I carry my heart on my sleeve, and I think I make myself vulnerable a lot. Admittedly, I sometimes wonder if I should protect my heart a bit more; be less sensitive, less caring. But I have to say that what it gives me is worth more to me than what it takes from me. I open up quite easily, but that is how I form connections with people and get close to them.
Quoting Oprah, "If you're being vulnerable, you're opening up your heart, and if the other person thinks that that's weak of you -- you are with the wrong person". So really it's a pretty useful and quick tool for knowing who's going to be "your kind of person" and who won't. We meet so many people these days, so it's good to be able to know. This applies to both romantic relationships and friendships, in my opinion. Time is precious, so you want to spend yours with people who add value to your life.
We can all contribute to what we want our future on this planet to look like. It's all too easy to get caught up with society norms, but I for one love challenging them every once in a while, and spicing things up makes life a lot more interesting. I could go on and write a lot more about this subject, but will leave it at this for now.
Happy Vibes Project is, first and foremost, a space where I share my excitement and fascina-tion about being human. I have a tendency to fall into research rabbit holes on almost any topic from science & technology to film ma-king, philosophy, cultu-re, art ... and, of course, holistic health. Happi-ness only gets better when shared, so feel free to reach out if you have an interesting story or would like to con-tribute in any other way! <3